Tuesday, January 20, 2009

The Journey Continues...

When I married Bob Milhizer I knew that life was going to be unpredictable and that he had big plans for himself and our family. Even when you know things going in, you don't have the ability to understand what that means and how it will play out. This is why I picked the quote that I did for the header of our blog...there has been great meaning in our life and many lessons learned because of our willingness to follow opportunity and take chances at the unknown.
If you haven't heard, we are moving this Saturday to Chicago. Bob's company has asked him to take over managing their Chicago office. I guess you could say this is a lateral move for him, but in the grand scheme of things he is expected to go in and fix a struggling situation. It just so happens that Bob is from Chicago and this puts us close to his family and friends from high school. I am very proud to know that Bob is looked at as the guy that they think can fix a very important market for his company. It is for reasons like this that it makes it easy for me to be supportive and willing to move again.
So you may be wondering how I feel about this move. This is a very complicated subject and I will try to answer this the best I can. First of all, let's look at the pros:
1. We will be near family and with Baby Boy on the way, I know this will be something that will be irreplaceable.
2. I am now able to make a choice as to whether or not I want to stay at home or go back to work. New York and it's cost of living was going to prove to be a little more challenging to figure out where we should live and whether my job would have paid me enough to contribute to our finances and pay for the cost of childcare. I am very relieved to not have to worry about this.
3. SPACE!!!! We are about to move into a brand new 3 bedroom, 2 bath condo that is about 1 mile from Wrigley Field, 2 miles from the Lake. Having lived with zero bedrooms for 20 months it is so exciting to think that visitors don't have to sleep in front of us, walk through our closet to go to the bathroom, and all the other "cozy" things that we have actually gotten used to. Plus, now we have a baby's room and a guest room!!!! Visitors welcome!!!! My parents, I'm sure, are pleased that they don't have to sleep in the same room with us. It is also very thrilling to know that our baby will have his own room. If we would have stayed in Manhattan we would have been sharing a 1 bedroom apartment with the baby.
4. Bob has great friends in Chicago from high school that we know will be a great support system as we get ourselves settled and I learn the city.
5. Eventually, we will get a car.......so exciting for this suburban raised Southern girl.

So, maybe now you are wondering what I will miss about New York. This is a harder question to answer. I am not sure that I ever fell in love with living here. More than anything, I fell in love with the idea that I was doing it and that I was capable of adjusting to such a different way of life.
Bob has loved living here and thrives on the big city mindset and what he has been able to accomplish in the most competitive and demanding city in our country. He is very happy to be moving home, but I know the New York bug isn't quite out of him. For me, this has been much more of a test and challenge. I have looked at this time as a step on our journey that has helped us grow as a couple and as individuals. I was able to arrive in New York without a job, find an amazing family to befriend and work for as their nanny and then move on to one of the most historical and amazing music organizations in this nation. Working at Carnegie Hall has taught me so much and I find myself very sad in leaving the work that I have been doing. I was able to find a place within my program, The Academy, that was needed and accepted quickly by the staff. My perspective coming from the classroom was appreciated more than I expected it would be and put to use much more than I thought it would be. I got to create my role and mold it to be what I could offer the most and what the program needed the most. It has opened up a new world of possibilities when I look to going back to work.
So here's my list of what I will miss:
1. Our view of the river and Riverside Park.
2. Our walks through Central Park.
3. Walking in and out of Carnegie Hall 5 days a week.
4. Going to shows and never being disappointed in the talent.
5. The possibility of running into the crazy lady who screams in every aisle of Duane Reade.
6. My job.
7. Never knowing what you might see on any given day.
8. The path to work may have been the same, but the scenery was always different.
9. Knowing I was capable of living here and being happy.

What I won't miss about New York:
1. The trash on the street.
2. The grocery stores - I MISS KROGER AND PUBLIX MORE THAN I CAN EXPLAIN!!!!
3. The general attitude and the difficulty to feel truly connected to people.
4. Having to walk no matter the weather. I have lost count of the amount of umbrellas I have gone through and shoes that are ruined.
5. Scaffolding and construction.
6. I love our little apartment and it taught us how to just deal with issues without a place to hide, but I am not going to miss our lack of space.
7. Expensive food and being disappointed in most of the restaurants we go to.
8. The cost of living..........

So, our time is running out. It is truly bittersweet. This is much easier on me than the move from Nashville. I will update everyone next week on our arrival. I am most excited that I will be in Nashville in a week and a half. I can't wait to see everyone and just relax for a few days. Lots to come on this Milhizer Mania Journey. As our friend Mandy reminded me the other night, the only thing constant in life is change.

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Rhondi said...

It was so great seeing you last weekend! What a treat to see you & your precious belly. You look fantastic! Best of luck in Chicago...I love you!
xoxo